A pets last moments...a vet talks.

[Catherine]

Maybe if a person can't be with their pet they can find a friend or family member who will help out. I went with a cat to the vet because the old lady had Alzheimers and she was in hospital. I stood in for her because she couldn't be there.

I know some people can't do it. They just can't be in the room at the end. It never gets easy. I was just surprized to hear a vet talk about things from his experience. It never gets easy for the vet either. Even with all the experience with death that they have, they find it hard. I think the vet is telling us that it is easier for him if you are there with your pet. 

Whatever happens it is hard for all of us. Worse people seem to carry a lot of guilt about so many things. You are right that guilt seems to go with grieving. It shouldn't. People do the best they can. Why should they feel guilty.  We would all feel much better if we would stop feeling guilty for things that we have no control over.

I try to be with my pets when they die. I try to let them die naturally.  We can't always do what we want.