How do I help this cat?

[Catherine]

Quote:A harness and lead would have worked for my Dushka many many years ago! But then -he wasn't really a cat, he was a reincarnated electrician! haha

I am sure there is a story here. This is the first time you have mentioned Dushka.

I have never heard of valerian being used for a cat. I am only vaguely aware of it as a plant.
It seems that  it has been introduced to North America and there is some concern about its effects ecologically.

It is odd that it attracts cats somewhat like catnip. Cats seem to have a lots of plants that favour them.

I hope you can sort Sally Cat out and keep her happy.  She is a really free spirit even more so than most cats. You don't want to see her anxious or unhappy.